How To Make Your Sex Life Even Better
Undressing As Foreplay Undressing one another can be very exciting, and the place for it is the living room sofa. This can make a welcome change from the more usual session in which the first sexual interactions are made when the couple are already naked. You need not restrict it, either, to the living room session. You can begin a sex session with it and transfer to the bedroom for sexual intercourse or other lovemaking. A couple sitting watching the TV after supper in a quiet house are ready at the whim of either to begin undressing as sexual foreplay. Each couple can devise their own signal - a hand up a blouse or up a skirt, or placed over a breast outside the clothes and squeezing; a hand slipped inside a shirt and a nipple stroked, flicked, or lightly nipped or rolled, a hand placed over the crotch outside the trousers and squeezed a little. Most couples will find a number of ingenious ways of letting each other know what they want. The first move towards full sex, once the intention to strip has been established, concentrates on the face and neck. Deep-kissing, nibbling ear lobes, flicking the tongue in the hollow behind the ear, kissing and tonguing the throat, eyelids and nose-tip (a very sensitive zone) are mutually administered as hands are wandering over other erogenous zones. Fastenings are unfastened while the kissing continues. After a few moments, the man's penis is bound to be erect and stiff. Because of the constriction of trousers and briefs, especially if the briefs are close-fitting, it will not have been able to spring erect, but will be depressed downwards, so the woman may slip her hand under the waistband of his briefs, take hold of his penis and pull it upright, so that it stands upright, its tip pointing towards its owner's navel. Before withdrawing her hand, she gives it a friendly caress, a promise of treats to come. While the two mouths continue their explorations and kissing, the man can unfasten his partner's bra, which will then fall forward revealing her breasts. This means that besides applying hand, finger, lips and tongue-tip caresses to breasts and nipples unimpeded, the man can also tongue tip caress his partner as far down as her navel. While he is doing this, the woman can stroke his shoulders and back lightly with the palms of her hands. A reminder: It is essential that both partners are in mouth or hand contact with one another all the time, except in the later stages, when one or two caresses place one body out of reach of the other's hands. In my experience, however, this need very very rarely happen, for even if one partner is kneeling on the floor with the mouth engaged in the other's genital region, it usually is possible for the more passive partner to reach shoulders, nape and ears with his/her hands. After some kissing of the woman's breasts, shoulders and belly by the man, they change roles. She now applies mouth caresses to his torso, while he strokes her shoulders and back. By this time both will have become very sensitive and sexually aroused through the sense of touch. In all sessions of sex there comes a moment when the man's penis becomes so erect and swollen that it demands the direct attention of his partner's hand or body. The same sort of desire is experienced, though perhaps to a lesser extent, by the woman in her vulval area (the area around the clitoris and vaginal entrance). In response to this urge a couple may want to press their genital areas together with quite heavy pressure from time to time; or apply pressure with their hands. When such "tactile libido" comes into action each should give the other a sign or ask their partner to "Touch me." In response, the woman might, for example, slip her hand inside the waistband of her partner's briefs, clasp his penis with the whole hand and squeeze it firmly. He might slip his hand inside the waistband of his partner's panties, put all four fingers on her crotch, and press quite hard. They can keep up these pressures for a minute or so, then withdraw their hands to use them elsewhere. Now she should slip his shirt off, slipping it down over his shoulders slowly, leaning forward and tonguing his shoulders and neck as she does so. While she is doing this, he leans forward and kisses her breasts and plays with her nipples with his mouth. By leaning forward he makes it easier for her to slip off his shirt. This is followed by another short session of mutual "tactile pressure" to keep penis and vagina happy. Before the man begins to remove his partner's shirt they might have a short session of mouth and hand caressing, which ends with the woman leaning forward and tonguing the man's nipples, torso and navel. While she is doing this, he slips off her shirt by slow degrees, caressing the nape of her neck shoulders and back as he does so. Another short session of mutual tactile pressure comes after this, and runs into another round of caresses of naked torsos and backs. As soon as he stands up, his trousers will fall about his feet. He should be able to step out of his trousers, but should he need assistance, his partner can help him, running her hands down the outsides of his legs to reach his trousers. While helping him off with his trousers she can run her lips and tongue down his thighs. She next slips both hands over his hips inside his briefs. By passing her hands down over his hips and thighs she will draw down his briefs. As soon as his penis and balls come into view, she will begin to smother them with kisses and other delectable caresses of tongue and mouth. Thus interested, she will draw the briefs right down to his ankles so that he can step out of them. And there he is in all his impeccable, rampant nudity! If she kneels behind him, the briefs will be taken off in the same fashion, but more slowly, for as soon as his buttocks are exposed, she will cover them with kisses, while with one hand she reaches round and clasps and squeezes his penis and cradles his balls lightly in her other other hand. After a few moments of this, she swiftly removes his briefs altogether and then once more reaches round to penis and balls, while she brushes her breasts lightly against his buttocks and thighs. This is one of the most sexually arousing caresses of the strip repertoire. Don't use it before this stage of the strip is reached because you need the preceding gradual build-up to bring you up to the state in which you can fully appreciate, both of you, the subtlety of the touch of those delicate nipples. Whatever the woman has been wearing, more likely than not it will have fallen about her feet and she will have stepped out of it during her final ministrations to her partner. If this has happened or not, working on her torso, beginning at her shoulders, with hands and mouth desperate to caress her, the man gradually slips his hands down to the waistband of her panties. Passing his hands down over her buttocks, he forces the panties down with them. While he is doing so, his mouth is doing all it knows to send ripples of sensations from breasts to vulva, clitoris and labia. As his hands move the panties down over her thighs, he goes slowly down on one knee, but never loses mouth or tongue contact with her belly as he does so. Almost invariably he will find that he has to push the panties right down to her ankles, and she will have to lift her feet one by one to step out of them. This action will slightly open her genital lips. His mouth will be exactly opposite them at this moment. Out darts his tongue, and with lightning flicks of its tip he greets her clitoris. The action of his tongue creates a new wave of need for tactile pressure. She places her hands on the back of his head and, crushes his mouth hard against her. At the same time he seizes her buttocks with both hands and plays with them firmly. It is quite likely that in the next moment or two she will have her first orgasm. As a variation, the woman can stand with her back to the man. While his hands play on her breasts, his mouth can play on her shoulders and back. The he can slip his hands down over her belly, pausing for a moment at her navel, then work his way under the waistband of her panties and down over her thighs. Down on his knees, the man can smother her buttocks with kisses, or snake his tongue back and forth across them in flickering darts. Free of all her clothes he can slide his hands back up the insides of her legs and thighs, until, reaching her crotch, he can insert three fingers between her genital lips and press on her hard. Behind her, his face can press in the opposite direction, and simultaneously penetrating her with one finger from the front, the tip of his tongue can find and circle the rim of her rear orifice. She may come within seconds. The couple have now a number of alternatives before them. They may hurry immediately to the bedroom and finish off on the bed in a frenzy of urgency or carry on and enjoy a leisurely orgasm or two. They may continue for a time on the couch, which lends itself well to a number of caresses which are not so comfortably executed on the bed, e.g. caressing the perineum, the area between anus and vagina or anus and balls. It is a very sensitive zone indeed, yet quite a number of couples overlook it. It is highly susceptible to light caresses of a fingertip, or to heavy pressure at midpoint - indeed, it may even help men to overcome delayed ejaculation, producing a quicker ejaculation with finger pressure - but the perineum is most susceptible to the stroking of the tongue-tip. This tongue-tip stroking is worth knowing about. The woman lies on her back on the couch, her head on cushions, her buttocks tilted up on one of the arms, her knees bent and either drawn right up to her breasts, or just so far that her feet are resting on the couch arm. Her legs are parted. The man stands - or if he is tall, kneels on a footstool at the end of the couch, and beginning at the anus he runs the tip of his tongue up the length of her perineum to the vaginal entrance. He circles the vaginal rim for a second or two, flicks his tongue in and out of the vagina a few times, continues up the vaginal ridge to the clitoris, pauses there for a few more seconds, using the tongue movement his partner prefers. He then begins to bring his tongue back the way it has come, pauses at the vaginal entrance, then very slowly progresses down the perineum until he comes to the anus, which he rims if the woman is sensitive there. This caress is repeated as many times as the woman can stand, or until she wants a change. If you're approaching your more senior years you might like to look at these websites: sex after fifty and sex after sixty, which will contain invaluable information on sex for seniors. The man takes up the same position on the couch as the woman did. She stands at the end of the couch, and beginning at his anus, she strokes his perineum with her tongue-tip. When she comes to his balls, she passes the flat of her tongue over them, and continues up the shaft of his penis in the same fashion until she reaches his frenulum. There she reverts to tongue-tip and teases the frenulum and glans penis with it for a few moments, before she begins the return journey. She can repeat according to taste. It is very difficult for the stroked partner to reach any part of the other's body in this position, and on it's difficult to tilt up the bottom sufficiently to expose the anus if the couple are on the bed. After a session of foreplay on the couch, the couple can, if they wish, transfer to the bedroom, where they can either begin a new and different session of foreplay, or carry on where they left off. Undressing as foreplay, skillfully and imaginatively executed, invariably raises sexual tension to such a pitch that even breaking off to go upstairs or make a drink in the kitchen does not impair it much, and it is very easy indeed to get back to the level of sexual arousal you had achieved before you broke off. |