How To Make Your Sex Life Even Better
Updated September 25, 2016
How To Get A Great Relationship - Dating Advice For Men!
The Tao of Badass By Joshua Pellicer
It's a sad fact that most men don't have access to any good information about dating and relationships. But when you think about it, where would they go to get that information and advice?
Most of our sexual information comes from ill informed peers as we're growing up and even in the sexual education we get in school doesn't generally cover the emotional aspect of relationship, or even the fact that sex can be -- God forbid that we should mention it -- fun!
But even when you leave all this aside, where are we men going to get information about dating, meeting women, approaching women, and learning how to relate to women in an intimate physical emotional and sexual relationship?
Well, in the absence of any better source of information, you could always turn to the Internet.
And though at first sight this might be a ludicrous suggestion, it's a good idea not to dismiss it out of hand, because actually there is a huge amount of information, including the Tao Of Badass dating advice and relationship advice, available on the Internet for anyone who cares to seek it out.
I suppose one of the questions that comes up here is how reliable this information might be, and it's certainly worth stopping for a moment to consider the reliability of online information.
If you type the name of almost any program to do with sex and relationships followed by the word review, for example The Tao of Bad Ass Review, into the Internet search engines, what you're going to get is a letter of frankly scam sites designed to sell you a product without giving you anything like an objective view of whether or not the site has anything worthwhile in it.
So there is a problem -- lots of information but no trustworthy review sites. However, I'd like to think that as far as the Tao of Bad Ass is concerned, things are different.
The reason is that this is a fantastic dating and relationship advice site from men, written by acknowledged relationship expert Joshua Pellicer. It's worth looking at this site, but most people who seek out a review of the Tao of Badass won't know whether what they're looking at is true or not. So I've overcome this problem by writing my own review site, which is not so much a review in the conventional sense, as a whole load of information that you might like to look at, revealing the contents of the Tao of Badass in an objective and factual way.
What I've been trying to do here, in providing information in this format, is to empower the individual concerned (you!) to decide whether or not they want to buy the Tao of Badass on the basis of their knowledge of the information that is contained within it.
So you might be wondering, well, OK, but what on earth is in the Tao of Badass that makes it so valuable for men trying to get into a relationship with women?
The answer to that is that this is first relationship and dating advice of the highest quality, it's also extremely comprehensive -- the relationship advice here covers almost everything from gender roles and expectations, all the way through to dating and relationship strategies to catch somebody's attention and keep it.
Now I know that it might sound manipulative to approach is something that we would all like to be a romantic experience in this way, but the fact of the matter is that the little bit of strategy never goes amiss. So the more you know about female expectations, female needs, female values, and in particular what drives female behavior (clue: it's their emotions!), the better.
Now I don't expect you to take my word for it, but if you go to my site and have a look at it, what you're going to find as a whole load of information which is designed to give you an inside track on the contents of the Tao of Badass, so that you can decide whether or not this relationship advice is right for you.
The Basics Of A Great Sexual Relationship
What are you aiming for when you make love? Physical pleasure, certainly. But is this enough? For couples who have sex together regularly, whether married or single, physical sex should be a visible, tangible expression of the emotional love, respect, and trust the partners have for one another. It gives a meaning to sex which otherwise is lacking.
But it goes even deeper than that. If you make love to your partner to express your love for him or her, you must aim always at giving him/her the greatest possible sexual experience possible. And making love on this basis prevents you from being selfish. One of the commonest complaints of frustrated partners is, "You only want me for your own pleasure!" If partners really cared for each other, they would take the time and trouble to look after their bodies and make themselves attractive for each other. of course for both men and omen this means looking good and keeping in trim. The Venus Factor diet is one way of doing this. Click here to check out the Venus Factor.
If you are aiming to give your partner an experience that is truly worthwhile, you forget about yourself and concentrate on the other's body. Your partner will take care of yours. In this way, sex becomes an expression of the emotional love each has for the other. Should you be entering middle age, which I'd see as over 50, then you might want to check out this site for men and women.
Care should be given to the choice of bedroom and to its furnishing and equipment. If you wish, the room should be soundproof. Nothing can be more restraining, or indeed off-putting, than for a couple to be conscious of the fact that they can be overheard while having sex. In fact, many couples find it impossible to reach orgasm if they may be overheard.
(Others, however, find the prospect exciting.) Not only are sounds stimulating to the lovers themselves, they can be equally highly sexual to those who overhear them. Have the right setting - a big bed, with comfortable, luxurious sheets, high quality cotton preferably. And because you're going to want to enjoy the sight and sound of your partner, the large bed should be placed in a room warm enough to enjoy making love naked.
Have at least one broad, long mirror fixed somewhere in the room. As many as the room will take or you can afford is an even better idea. It's fun to have one fixed to the ceiling over the bed.
Why mirrors? Because all men, and quite a lot of women, get a really good kick out of watching themselves enjoying sex. The sight of the penis sliding in and out of the vagina turns all men on, and women find it exciting to watch their man getting turned on.
Don't have sex in the dark, if possible, because the facial expressions of a turned on partner can be highly arousing. And what's more, you can see where you're going. So lighting is a really important feature of any room where you enjoy sex. At night you need a good light, but not a glaring one.
lamp on either side of the bed with shades which cut off the direct glare is a very practical arrangement. But you also need a good center light too, so you can enjoy sex in other areas of the room and see what is happening in the mirror! Daylight of course is best, so if you are not observed when you have a day-time session, let the daylight stream unimpeded into the room.
You will also need one or two other pieces of equipment. For example, a stool at least three feet long and fourteen inches wide, with a comfortably upholstered top. It should be the exact height of the mattress when it is depressed by the man lying on it on his shoulders and back, his buttocks and thighs supported by the stool.
(This stool makes it possible for you to use a restful woman on top sex position, which allows her to have both feet firmly on the floor. This in turn allows her to ride you from above which she cannot do so expertly either kneeling or squatting astride on a non-rigid base.)
You also need another stool, this time a low one, just the right height to bring the man's genital area in line with the woman's when she lies on her back with her legs dangling over the edge of the bed. Naturally, if the bed is low enough so that this alignment happens automatically when the man kneels on the floor - on a cushion - this stool is superfluous.
Unless you have fairly frequent opportunities to make love in the kitchen, or dining room, and like doing it on a chair, have a strong, comfortable chair - without arms - in the bedroom. A good supply of towels for cleaning up after sex or using beneath you while you make love will make cleaning up after sex more comfortable.
You should regard every room in the house as a potential setting for your lovemaking. No room should be barred, because different surroundings are themselves stimulating and a strong antidote to boredom. The Living Room, for example, isn't used for lovemaking half as much as it should be.
So what if man has difficulty ejaculating during sex? What does that actually signify? Is it delayed ejaculation? The answer is that it mostly depends on other factor, and on what he is doing in other areas of his life - if he is a young man, with high levels of testosterone, then he may find that delayed ejaculation is a psychological issue which comes from idiosyncratic masturbatory patterns of some form, or from deep emotional or psychological issues with sex.
If he is in his mid-life stages, then he may find that it is more about the loss of testosterone, and in the later stages of his life he may find that it is actually all about the extension of his refractory period to such an extent that he cannot any longer obtain an erection or reach the point of ejaculation within a few days of his last experience of sex.
We are all too apt to go in for sex after we have stripped, whereas in fact sex can be just as exciting (sometimes even more so) if we start making love while we've still got our clothes on, or at any rate most of them.
See to it that your living room has a comfortable sofa, or a very roomy armchair, and lots of cushions (to be placed under buttocks, to be knelt on, to rest elbows on and so on); good lighting for sex; is warm enough for lovemaking; and anything else you like.
A planned session of sex ought never to last less than one hour, preferably an hour and a half; ideally, two hours or more. There are also spontaneous sessions of sex, the ones which spring upon you without much warning. The majority of couples enjoy lovemaking on average between twelve and sixteen times a month.
At least half the time most couples do not wait for the body's chemistry to nudge them into action, but just the reverse, they nudge the body chemistry into action by planning a session of sex. Of course, you may have sex more or less often - not all couples' sex drive is the same. Of course, it is a fact that in any relationship, sex drive goes stale of the couple become less interested after a while. That is why seduction strategies need to be constantly reinforced. A great one for women is to check out this good relationship advice for women - to be found at Sexistentialist.com. Oddly enough there is another great website on the same subject - dating tips for women - to be found here.
Fortunately, both men and women don't have to wait for their sex drives to operate. They can fuck whenever they have a mind to, as long as the man has an erection and the woman's vagina is relaxed enough for the penis to get into it with the aid of saliva if she isn't particularly aroused.
Every couple can recognize sex drive promptings when they experience them. There's a tenseness in the loins and genitals, a pleasant sensation of interior fullness which indicates that something, somewhere has got to be emptied, experienced as a gradual build-up.
This warning can come at any time of the day, and when it does you know for a certainty that within a short time you're going to be having sex. It is the inevitability of this which allows you to plan the timing of your session.
There are not many couples in the world whose sex drive rhythms coincide. So often the man will be responding to sex drive promptings, while his partner is not, and vice versa.
But this doesn't matter. Lovemaking is an equal partnership. Both have the right to initiate activities, and both have the right to expect the other to cooperate at least some of the time.
Although one partner has made up his/her mind that there must be a session of sex they make their desires known to one another by gestures and caresses, so that, when the time comes, a hint of "early bed", or a caress that indicates sex doesn't come as too great a surprise.
How long is needed for good sex? An hour and a half can frequently be found; an hour is always possible. But why so long? Simply to give each other the greatest sexual pleasure you've ever had. You can't, or at least you shouldn't try, to hurry any woman, and any woman who lets herself be hurried will not enjoy sex to the full.
Equally, a man who wishes to can certainly control his speed to orgasm. Premature ejaculation - rapid ejaculation which leaves both partners unsatisfied - does not make for good sex.
And it doesn't mean that a man's partner is not to caress him at all, or even only half-heartedly. He should be able to take all she can provide in the way of stimulation.
Ideally a man can make love to his partner, and be made love to by her, for any length of time, and though he may at times be close to ejaculation, he can always be sure he is not going to come until he gives himself permission to do so.
Ideally he can pass an hour, after a long session of fellatio and other exciting activities, with his penis in her vagina, and, what's more, keep up a constant movement, and still be able to last longer in bed.
When he is sure that he knows how to make a woman come, - click here - (and if he's not sure, he will ask her), he tells her, "I'm going to come now!" and he does in ten, fifteen, thirty seconds!
Ejaculation Control Techniques can help you become a longer lasting lover. All too-rapid ejaculators begin to thrust with buttock muscles tensed as soon as they get their penis in position.
Tensed buttock muscles have a close connection with speed to orgasm for all men; a significant part of the secret of delaying orgasm lies in relaxed pelvic and buttock muscles.
One man observed: "When I have decided I'm going to come, I can control the speed with which I ejaculate by the degree to which I clench my buttock and pelvic muscles.
Really tight equals ten seconds; not quite so tight - fifteen seconds; and a shade more relaxed still - thirty seconds." Sexologists use one word for the action of the penis, in the vagina - thrusting. But with pelvic and buttock muscles relaxed the movement can be termed "Swinging"; when these muscles are tensed, then the man is "thrusting."
Why bother to overcome premature ejaculation anyway? If you make love with the view to obtaining the most intense sensual experience, bring each other to the threshold of coming; pause till you're relaxed again; begin stimulation once more to the same point; pause again.
The more often both the woman and the man are brought to the threshold of orgasm, when you do decide at last to orgasm and/or ejaculate, the more devastating your orgasm will be. Lovemaking, therefore, can't be hurried if you want to enjoy the biggest and best orgasms.
A man can be brought to the threshold of orgasm at least six times an hour; a woman at least four times. To do this, the man must have absolute control, but when he finally does go over the edge it will all have been worth it.
The more often he reaches the ejaculatory threshold, the better his final orgasm will be when he eventually reaches it. So it is too, for the female partner.
This is why you must have time, except on those occasions where you are both so aroused that you are going to ejaculate or reach orgasm within seconds of beginning to have sex.
Scientifically speaking the ideal time for a sex session - at least from the man's point of view - is between 6 am and 8 am. Most men's daily production cycle of testosterone - the hormone that among other things makes him feel horny (sexually responsive) - is at its peak at 7 am. But you can always vary the time to keep sex fresh and exciting and match each other's preferred time.
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Often men feel self-conscious about their appearance and whether or not they will be able to "perform" adequately in bed (whatever that means for you). These doubts can surface around penis size, ejaculatory control, bodily appearance, and ability to satisfy a woman sexually.
Of course, it's no different for a woman who may feel inadequate because she cannot achieve a climax during sex or because she is overweight and self-conscious about her body. Having the confidence to enter into a sexual situation without any self doubt can greatly improve the quality of your fun and make sex much more enjoyable.
For men who want to improve the quality of sex, things are harder. However, if your problem is premature ejaculation, there certainly are ways you can learn ways to last longer in bed for men.
If you want a relationship, then you need to try manifestation and co-creation using the law of attraction. Find out more here.
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One of the most practical and simple and even straightforward things that you can do to make your sex life better is to use the power of your mind to set intentions about what you want.
This may sound a little bit strange, and if so I think the reason for that is because most of us never actually even set out what we want in life.
Most of us are governed by expectations and belief systems that we were given as children, set in stone in our subconscious minds, and for ever inhibiting expression of our true magnificence and power.
One of the ways that this manifest in life is by the expression of "King killers", the people who shoot down somebody who is successful, because they're envious of them and they see in those people a level of success that they themselves can perhaps ever hope to actually achieve.
Now you don't need to go into sophisticated psychological theses about why people act in this way: in fact, it's better for you if you just ignore the negativity around you from focus on the expression of your own power, your own positivity, and your own potential.
You see, focusing on the negative will bring the negative towards you; focusing on the positive will bring the positive towards you.
There's no doubt whatsoever that those who are successful in life become successful by focusing on the expression of positive thoughts and feelings, and by maintaining a mental attitude which is designed to attract towards them the things they want most in life.
Really, when you think about it, there's no secret about manifestation or the Law of Attraction: the truth of the matter is rather simple. You can express it this way: "you get what you think about". Yes, that really is the Law Of Attraction summed up in a sentence, and of course I also admit that is a lot more to it than that.
Nonetheless, when you think about infestation and the Law of Attraction, don't think about metaphysical ideas – just think about the idea of getting what you want as a quite natural human ability!